The five biggest mistakes to succeed in life!
1 - Not believing in Yourself
Isn't it funny how the people who seem to know everything is so busy driving taxi cabs???
In this world, EVERYONE has an opinion.
Whether or not that opinion is worth a bolt or not, however, is a highly debatable subject!
If you've ever come up with what YOU thought was an excellent idea only to be told 'that it will never work, then you'll know this very well.
And some people actually take things a step further and immediately forget the very thing they were so fired up about, purely because someone told them, 'It's not possible????
Can you believe that?
So, if you're serious about your dream and achieving your goals, you must be highly PROTECTIVE of the space between those two ears.
A famous quote says, "Those who think it can't be done should not interrupt those doing it. "
This quote is particularly relevant to what's being discussed here.
And as an entrepreneur and someone committed to freeing yourself from 'The Matrix, you HAVE to be VERY CAREFUL where you get your information.
Most of the time, we ask the wrong people's opinions. People who are not even qualified to offer a bit of advice.
People are afraid that the overtime might dry up, let alone going out there, taking a risk, and making a difference in their lives and all the lives of others.
Napoleon Hill said, 'Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.' And while that quote holds the absolute truth.
The bottom line is that their best thinking has gotten THEM where THEY are (not very far), but YOUR best thinking can get you whatever you desire. So, keep on keeping on. You got this!
2. Succumbing to 'Fear of...'
"Fear of? Fear of what?" you ask.
Fear of EVERYTHING, that's what.
Outside of belief, FEAR is the NUMBER ONE killer of dreams. And it's a HUGE issue for many.
Fear has the power to paralyze you.
Stop people who would otherwise be highly successful in their tracks - so they never even get started.
The list of 'Projects that amounted to nothing since the beginning of time is endless, and it's predominantly down to fear.
Don't let fear hold you back from achieving your full potential!
You really don't have to!
You need to UNDERSTAND it.
The two most common fears are the Fear of Failure and the Fear of Success.
Yes, that's right, fear of being successful.
The first one is relatively straightforward.
Listen, no one wants to look like a Doofus, and no one wants to be singled out, stared at, pointed at, laughed at, and humiliated for making a mistake.
But guess what?
That rarely happens anyway, and that's just what we think will happen.
So what we are dealing with here is not good old-fashioned 'Animalistic' Fear (which is helpful and serves us), but instead, completely irrational 'Psychological Fear' which has ABSOLUTELY NO BASIS in reality whatsoever.
Think about a baby learning to walk.
Does that put him off when he inevitably stumbles and falls and sometimes hurts himself physically and severely?
Does he say to himself, 'Well, that didn't work? I won't try that again.
And how stupid I must've looked to those onlookers!' Hell No! Of course not.
He picks himself up and tries again. And again, and again and again and again. And still, if need be.
Jim Rohn said it best: "How long should you try?"
The answer, of course, to anyone familiar with Rohn's Philosophy is "Until."
And that's precisely how long a baby keeps trying to walk - fear or no fear, he keeps trying.
Until what? Until he succeeds!!!
Listen, there's no antidote to fear.
But remember, fear is a feeling.
That's ALL it is.
Just a feeling. And guess what?
That feeling never goes away.
Instead, we must learn to UNDERSTAND that feeling fear is perfectly normal and that, as Franklin D. Roosevelt said, "We have nothing to fear but fear itself." And while there is no definitive antidote to fear, one potential 'coping mechanism' for handling it is courage in choosing to act despite it.
Courage is essential on the journey to success, so you might as well accept that.
Get used to it, and actually start putting yourself in uncomfortable situations that require it, so you can develop your courage and have it available when you need it most.
3 - Listening To Nay-sayers (Including Friends & Family)
This one's related to the first point because often times when we listen to the (predominantly negative) opinions of others, it robs us of our level of belief in ourselves.
The trouble is that when first starting out, we're usually really fired up about the idea of a new and exciting (although somewhat worrying) venture.
And so we look to others for emotional support to help us overcome our fear or self-doubt and validation that our new idea is not commenting lazy and that we're not making the biggest mistake of our lives.
And what we're really hoping to hear from them is something like this: "That sounds like an AWESOME idea, and I think it'll do really well because a) YOU are talented and determined, and b) when you set your mind to something, you ALWAYS make things work!"
But instead, typically, the 'feedback' we receive is the exact opposite, and the next thing we're hearing is things that do little to enhance our belief in ourselves or our idea (not to mention our confidence levels) and EVERYTHING to completely destroy them.
Stuff like: "Have you actually thought this through?"
"Have you been listening to those self-help gurus again?"
"I thought you would have learned from your last abomination."
"The people who succeed with this stuff have money & experience behind them."
"I wish you'd snap out of this fantasy land you're living in!"
Great huh? Not exactly!
But listen - it DOES NOT MATTER what they think.
It's your dream, not theirs. 💭Just because they believe it's 'dumb' or that they could never make it work doesn't mean you can't.
Other people do not have a Monopoly on Reality.
In fact, NO ONE does.
Ignore the nay-sayers (even those closest to you), get out there, and get it done!
And if they become 'haters,' as David Goggins says… "Don't kill them with kindness. Torture them with f**king success!"
4 - Getting Stuck In Learning Mod
This is a sticking block for most entrepreneurs.
And it's this simple... LEARNING IS NOT THE SAME AS DOING!
Having overcome self-doubt and on a mission to destroy our self-limiting beliefs, we start out excited and ready to tackle the world head-on.
Typically, the subject will be new to us, so we realize we'll need help and wisely invest in a program that supports and educates us.
But if we're not careful, we can fall into the trap of dealing only in THEORY and not PRACTICE!
Look, there's no doubt that you need to learn the theory before getting involved in a new venture, but we must always be mindful of the transition from theory into practice.
Because if we are not - and instead, we inadvertently allow things to 'stagnate,' we can end up creating a vast chasm between the two styles of learning; Education and Experience.
Failing to take the next (practical) step is a symptom of underlying fear, leading us to procrastinate.
We want to feel like we're still maintaining momentum, so this leads to us thinking that more reading, more videos, and more research are required - when the truth of the matter is that there's only ONE THING that's going to get us to the next level and that one thing is TAKING ACTION!
Look, being a successful entrepreneur is not about being perfect. It's not about making mistakes but about knowing just enough to start being driven enough to give a damn about the needs of others and to serve them.
Ask yourself: How can I mess up when really all I want to do is help others?
And if you don't feel that way about what you are doing, perhaps you must reconsider your motives.
The art of (actually) moving towards your desired outcome can be understood and implemented using this simple 3-step process.
Just break everything down to avoid being trapped in Learning Mode: Learn. Do. Teach.
Step 1: Learn something you didn't know
Step 2: Implement the theory. Put it into practice by actually DOING it.
Step 3: Assess your results and then share them with others. The beauty of doing things this way is that you get Theoretical and Practical Knowledge and Experience, but get this - you also reinforce the lessons you have learned the minute you share them with others.
And, of course, if the subject is something others don't know just yet, your credibility will skyrocket because you're sharing valuable content.
It will, therefore, be considered to be an expert! And that's EXACTLY what you want, right?
5 - Failing to Manage feelings of Overwhelm
Here's the thing.
When you first decide to take massive action, it's easy to feel overwhelmed.
Perhaps you're someone with really high aspirations, and while that's a good thing, it can kind of 'backfire,' resulting in you not knowing where to start.
So queue the clichés and remember: "Rome wasn't built in a day."
"The journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step."
"How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time."
But get this: they might be clichés but are founded in truth, and that's why they've stood the test of time.
The bottom line is this, if you have MASSIVE dreams and a MONUMENTAL vision of your future, that's fantastic, but don't count on that alone to drive you forward when the going gets tough (and it will).
In fact, focusing so far into the future will make you quit when the heat is on because it'll feel much more challenging to achieve.
So sure, have a HUGE GOAL which you focus on daily, but when it comes to knuckling down and moving closer towards it, focus on what you can do TODAY to bring you one step closer and go what?
If you do that consistently, you will have made fantastic progress the next time you stop to assess where you are relative to where you want to be.
As Jim Rohn says, "You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction."
So train yourself to keep moving in the right DIRECTION towards your DESTINATION.
Ask yourself, "What is the ONE THING I can do today to move me closer to my goal?"
Do that enough.
After a week, a month, or a year think of the unprecedented progress you will have achieved!
These are just a few mistakes you'll probably make or challenges you'll likely face on your journey toward success.
And that's perfectly normal, and there will likely be more too.
The secret is to realize that the journey is the fun part.
It makes you grow as a person, and it gives you character.
Imagine how annoying things would be if you just got everything your heart desired without having to do anything to achieve it.
Challenges are there to be overcome, not to keep you stuck behind a desk in a job you hate taking orders from a boss you don't respect.
It's time to get out there and SEIZE your destiny.
To step into your power and mold your future.
I hope this post gave you insight into what you can expect along the way. And if I can serve you in any way on your path to freedom, please let me know.
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